Rejection | Tips to deal with it!

Hello dear readers, hope you're having a great time! Today we're gonna talk rejection. We've all been there, rejecting and being rejected, it's part of life and it sucks both ways, that's the reason for this post, to try and help you not only to accept and manage being rejected better, but also to better at rejecting. Let's roll!

I've always been the kind of guy that goes for it. If you want something, give it a shot, maximum effort! I believe that rejection last for a while, but regret lasts forever, so I don't regret things. Open up, get hurt, live in the world, take chances, make mistakes! It's scary, I'll give you that, but, sometimes, sometimes you're gonna make it, and it's going to be great, and it's going to be worth all of it, it's just a matter of not giving up.

The rest of the times, it won't go well when you go for it. You might apply for a job and they'd tell you they don't have anything available at the moment. You could pitch in a brand new awesome idea for a project and they'd say it's not viable. You could finally muster up some courage and ask out that person you just can't get out of your mind and they'll turn you down. Worse yet, you could actually open up your heart to that person and they could simply tell you they're not interested. That all sucks, but it will happen.

I remember once I went and told this girl I was crazy about her, and I really was, and I'm quite sure she knew it for a while, but still it was a big thing for me to open up my heart like that. I went on and told her I wanted to see her, just the 2 of us, hang out somewhere, you know, like a date. Her answer? "I don't know if I want to see you". Bam! Heartbroken, but the worst part was that answer. What the hell does that mean? I figured it was some way of not saying no, so I tried to be cool on that and said something like "oh, well, when you know, let me know". I was crystal clear that I was never going to hear about that again, time has proven me right so far. My lesson? I told myself whenever I have to turn down someone again, I'd at least make it clear, a simple "I'm just not into you" works.

So, I guess my first tip goes to the rejecter. Make it clear you're rejecting the other person. It's important to have closure, it's necessary to move on. Don't keep someone hooked just cause you're afraid of hurting them, or because you think it might ruin your friendship, that's a lame excuse, if you are really friends, then that's not going to change. But the worst line I've seen, and I admit I used it once and I'm deeply sorry for that, don't tell someone "not right now", that's being a top class jerk.

Another tip for the rejecter! Don't explain yourself. You don't owe it to anybody. It's common for the rejectee to wonder why, but, trust me, most of the times, it's going to make things worse. Why? Cause that's giving them a chance to reply, to try and convince you things are not how you think they are, to ask for another shot at it. At the end you're going to feel bad, and the only thing you're going to accomplish is stringing it along.

Now let's discuss the rejectee. The one who, arguably, takes the worst part. There are many things you can do in order to move on asap, let's check em' out!

Take your time. Just like with dealing with a breakup, but hopefully less painful. You're going to feel upset, take the time to process it and grieve. Eat that chocolate ice cream or whatever works for you, just don't go overboard with it. Remember, you failed once, you pick yourself up and try again. You don't need to get fat in the process.

Talking about it helps, too. Go to your friends/family. Talk some shit about the idiot who said your idea was "too mainstream", that always helps and brings up the mood. Just make sure to go to the right person, you want that one who will tell you it straight to your face, that's what you need, straight up honesty. But, do try not to just talk about it every time, don't dwell too much in it, work yourself up. Oh! And you should avoid social media, specially avoid the temptation of airing what happened. The internet never forgets, it might come back and bite you in the ass.

Accept it. Embrace it. Your mind might trick you on giving it another shot, don't stay hooked. I know it's hard, but you don't want to miss out on life for a lost cause. Sometimes things are just not meant to happen. Yes, you feel that other person is making a terrible mistake, you might be right, but it's their mistake to make. You will, eventually, make happy someone that actually wants you to.

Remember, at the end, it's not your fault being rejected. Don't take it personal. The other person is rejecting a situation involving you, be it giving you a job, publishing your book, dating you, whatever. It just doesn't work for them. They're not technically rejecting "you", they don't know you. Respect that.

That's it! Simple, right? Remember, stay sexy, be confident and go for it!

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